The Silent Pandemic is Destroying Marriages - How to Heat Things Up in the Bedroom!
The Silent Intimacy Crisis: Reigniting Passion in Your Pandemic Marriage
The COVID-19 pandemic has caused unprecedented strain on marriages and relationships. With increased time together in lockdown comes mounting irritations, rifts in communication, financial stressors, and unfortunately in many cases - a lack of physical intimacy.
Experts are calling it a “silent pandemic.” The stats are alarming:
- 38% of couples reported decreased sexual frequency during the pandemic (Kinsey Institute)
- 64% recorded a drop in intimacy (Lelo survey)
- 41.3% of married couples in Kenya now report being sexually dissatisfied, up from 26.6% pre-pandemic (Sexual Medicine study)
But it doesn’t have to be this way. Relationship coaches Steven and Kori have lived through their own dry spells and slumps over 40+ years of marriage. They know how to bring back the passion - even after decades together.
Reignite Your Libido: Pro Tips for Pandemic Marriages
Steven and Kori get real about reigniting fire in the bedroom and keeping things red hot 🔥 even when you’re stuck at home 24/7 together. Here are some of their spicy tips for heating up a marriage gone cold:
1. Schedule Sex Sessions
It may seem structured, but planning intimate “pleasure time” can help make it a priority again. Sex shouldn't feel like a chore - treat it as a chance to get frisky!
2. Roleplay and Explore New Things
Boredom is intimacy’s worst enemy. Shake things up with sexy games, toys (use responsibly!), experimenting with new positions, locations, etc. A little variety goes a long way.
3. Set the Mood
Foreplay shouldn’t just be physical. Text flirty messages during the day, enjoy some wine together, take a relaxing shower or bath, light candles, play music - build anticipation and romance.
4. Handle Hormone Changes
Menopause and andropause can tank libidos. Be patient, communicate openly, and focus on other forms of sensual touch. Prioritize intimacy.
5. Never Use Sex as a Weapon
Withholding physical affection due to fighting is toxic. Have the uncomfortable talks, apologize, and reconnect emotionally first.
6. Accept Occasional “Service Sex”
Sometimes your partner really wants it and you’re not in the mood. Consider meeting their needs anyway as an act of love.
7. Seek Counseling If Needed
If you’ve gone months or years without sex, or have mental blocks preventing intimacy, don’t be afraid to seek professional help.
The pandemic has shaken relationships, but it’s possible to overcome “dead bedroom” syndrome with effort. Talk openly, make sex a priority again, and rekindle the passion you once had!
For more tips, listen to Steven and Kori's full episode here [link].
Has Your Marriage Lost Its Sizzle?
Let us know in the comments if you’ve experienced an intimacy slump during quarantine. What revved things up again for you? Feel free to ask Steven and Kori for advice - they’re happy to help!
How to Cope with Physical Changes in Your Long-Term Relationship
After 40 years of marriage, Steven and Kori Burgess have experienced their fair share of physical transformations. In the latest episode of their podcast, they get real about handling changes to your health, weight and appearance as you age together.
Don't Let the "Pandemic Pounds" Ruin Your Self-Esteem
Like many couples, Steven and Kori gained unwanted weight during the pandemic due to inactivity and stress. But they caution against letting your fitness slide, as it can severely impact self-image and satisfaction in your relationship.
"You can get comfortable in being uncomfortable," Kori admits. She advises finding flattering clothes for your current body while actively working to get in better shape through diet and exercise. Don't justify weight gain by blaming your spouse or kids - take personal responsibility!
How Menopause and Andropause Affect Your Looks and Libido
Your hormones change drastically as you enter menopause and andropause. This can mean weight fluctuations, mood swings, low energy and reduced sex drive.
Steven and Kori emphasize being sensitive to what your partner is going through during this transition. Don't nag about their appearance, be helpful instead! Suggest healthy recipes, go on walks together and boost their self-esteem.
Make an Effort to Stay Attractive for Your Spouse
While your natural looks will change over time, Steven and Kori insist you should keep up your grooming and style for your partner.
Little things like wearing nice pajamas, keeping well-groomed facial hair or putting on a flattering dress can go a long way in keeping the spark alive after decades together. Surprise your spouse with a sexy outfit or gift card for new clothes!
Don't Let Hygiene and Grooming Slide
Poor personal hygiene can seriously damage intimacy in a marriage. If your partner has been skipping showers or wearing the same sweatpants for a week, it's time for an intervention!
Kori suggests subtly turning showering into couple time. And if needed, give your spouse the honest feedback that their scent or appearance is unacceptable. Don't be afraid to hurt their feelings - bad hygiene is a dealbreaker.
Encourage Fitness Goals in Your Relationship
Research shows most long-term couples take issue with their partner's weight or fitness level. But Steven and Kori believe you should fully support your spouse's exercise regimen, even if they become super shredded!
Working out shows commitment to health and discipline. Compliment your partner's hard work rather than criticizing their new muscles. And let their dedication motivate you to improve your own physical condition.
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Listen or watch this episode here: YouTube: https://youtu.be/ugYmP7eHXLM?si=7DlJ6kooZqbg44Wk
and Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3GtSlr79sH7i9r3oM9BPzX
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