What draws you to an occurrence or experience? Motive or Heart
What causes you to participate or partake in the occurrence or experience? Motive or Heart
Why would you go the distance for this occurrence or experience? Motive or Heart
When would you break off or abandon the occurrence or experience? Motive or Heart
Does your Heart lead your Motive, or vice versa?
When we take the time to think deeply or meditate on these questions we arrive at the necessary conclusion that identifies why, what, where, who and how we should or shouldn't involve ourselves in the occurrences or experiences that flow through our lives.
Should we say "Thank You, but I'll Pass this time"
or "Thank you, I'm ready and available for the journey"
Take a blank sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle making 2 columns write at the top of one side Motive, and Heart on the other. See if they equal the same outcome.
Does that sound like an insult to you? Let's think about that sentence. Mind - thoughts, meditation, deep thinking, take care of Your - personal, identity Own - belonging to, having, possessing Business - dealings, trade, goings, calling
Now let's look at "Mind Your Own Business" in a thoughtful manner:
*Take Care of the identity that you possess through your (life) dealings. *Deeply think of how you personally belong in your calling.
We encourage you to take time to delve into the words of this sentence and find the true meaning for your personal journey.
We in America celebrate Thanksgiving this month. We prepare for weeks, some for months. Whose coming for that big Thanksgiving dinner? Whose sleeping over? Do we have enough place settings at the table? Is our menu full of yummy foods for all? Will everyone be comfortable in their seating around the table or throughout our home? Do we need to pick up friends & family from the airport? Should we book a hotel for others? What activities will we provide?
It can become overwhelming.
Why not let Thanksgiving BE Thanksgiving? No stress. GIVE THANKS for all you have and what you've been protected from having.
GIVE THANKS for having strength and support through the tough unbearable times.
GIVE THANKS that people desire to be with you during this season of gratitude.
Let's not get caught up in the commercials we see that tell us what Thanksgiving should look like. This is a time of reflection into the hearts of those you are with. Happy Thanksgiving! Oh…. and have every guest bring a dish of food to share! Enjoy!
That would be yourself! You are always going to be with YOU! Learn to love yourself more. Now, some of you out there may be self absorbed…. that's not what we are talking about. Loving the one you're with looks like;
*Saying "yes" to resting your mind during the day.
*Writing down/journal your good attributes and enhancing them.
*Taking care of your health REGULARLY.
*Take yourself out on a date. Just you enjoying the moment. Making a memory.
Loving yourself more becomes a benefit to those people around you. They feel your calmness. They experience your peace. They receive your overflow of love. Then you are literally loving the others you are with!
I (Kori) am sitting here having breakfast looking out the window to my stunning view but something is just not complete. I realize the windows are dirty with residue… not as clean as usual.
That's because we recently had Hurricane Ian blow through our state. It has devastated everything. It may be weeks even months before we have a clear view through these windows. But first things first!
How many of us live without a clear view of who we are meant to be or what we allow to be our standard of living?
It may take a cleaning service (coach, counselor, therapist) to help you remove the residue of past storms or "Hurricanes" to bring you into a clear view of your true self and life purpose.
Some may know exactly what we're talking about. It's those moments in your life where you feel like you are being held and preparing for something that will lift you into a season of flight. We sit out on our patio in the mornings and watch the butterflies converge onto our Passion Flower Plant and we watch some of those butterflies lay their eggs. We've copied this description (from allanspetcenter.com) because it is a clear correlation between caterpillars and man:
First, not all caterpillars turn into butterflies. Some turn into moths instead.
Wow! What does that tell you about mankind? You're going to meet some moths!
Hey you may be a moth. mmmm.
No matter what, all caterpillars go through the same four stages: egg, larva, pupa and adult.
All humans go through the same stages of life (infant, childhood/adolescence, adult)
Each stage has different goals and time lengths. Humans have different goals from each other and different life spans.
Once the caterpillar is done eating and growing, there is a lack of the juvenile hormones, which causes the caterpillar to form a silk cocoon around itself as it begins a radical transformation in a gorgeous butterfly or…. a moth.
We as humans grow through our juvenile hormones (child/adolescence). As we go through this process we chose how we are going to develop ourselves. What we are going to believe in. Who we are choosing to acquaint ourselves with. What does a true friendship look like. Where we would like to live. How we would like to represent ourselves. That is our cocoon moment.
When we have set these thoughts and actions into motion we come forward as that gorgeous butterfly or….. grey moth.
As we discussed in our last post, humans do not grow in balance. Some areas in our lives are more mature than other areas.
How do you see your growth into an adult on certain matters? Listen to how (& what) you speak on topics.
Are you just flapping your tongue without thought?
Did you know the silent observer is usually the most mature?
Speaking when necessary on topics that matter. When we hear conversation that is riddled with coarse jokes, foolish conversation from adults, we understand (unless they are comedians trying to get a laugh) there is little depth of maturity in the mind.
How do you psychologically grow into Adulthood? Pursue and align yourself with those you seek to emulate. Follow your spiritual guide/literature. Ours is the Holy Bible.
Understand that human growth does not happen in balance (as a scale). At times we are stronger and more mature in one area of our life versus other areas in our life.
Our emotional, mental, intellectual, cerebral, physical self grows into a state of "childhood/adolescence", from infancy, as we collect data/information that we believe or challenge.
Just as children are curious and impressionable, so are we within our psychological growth. You probably have heard someone say "The child has an old spirit" or "He is a full grown man and can't grasp the concept".
This is caused by the mental/emotional, child or adolescence of a person as they grow. We all go through a level of understanding at different phases of our life.
Consider grace with others because they may be the infant that you were. Giving mercy while not expecting an apology, for they too are infants and learning.
1 Peter 2:2 (NIV) Speaks about how you must be an infant first so that you will grow into maturity.
Never apologize for growing (women do this the most). Stop saying " I'm sorry" when you get a new assignment, appointment, or task incorrect. That should be a part of growing.
Start saying "Now I have a better understanding".
If you've never done something and are working towards a result you will start off as an infant. We as humans give such grace and encouragement to infants as they begin crawling, holding a spoon etc.
Give yourself that same grace and encouragement in your growth. Milk is easy to digest and yet it is full of nutrients. As an infant in your new venture, find the "milk" first to help you gain understanding and knowledge which is your nutrient.
We all have different ways we learn, educate ourselves and grow. Be very clear on what works for you. I (Steven) enjoy reading books and listening to speakers. I (Kori) enjoy audible books and watching podcasts. We both enjoy live events.
If you are someone who gets the most out of learning and growing by reading a physical book then do that. You may enjoy writing notes on the pages or dog-earring a page to go back to.
Some people are distracted by watching a person speaking because it causes distraction from the message. Others do not like live events because they get caught up in the audience and not the speaker.
Why are we telling you this?
Because, people spend hundreds, if not thousands of dollars to improve upon their lives by using the very medium that doesn't suit them.
Have you ever heard someone say "That was a fantastic (conference, book, podcast, speaker, show) event" but they do nothing to change their lives or improve upon what they saw or heard?
They may be using the wrong format/medium to grow.
Tap into understanding what attracts you to a growth level. You will save time and money while enjoying your ease in growth.