Redefining household duties equitably can be tricky, especially after major life shake ups like the pandemic. In their latest podcast episode, Steven and Kori Burgess tackle this complex topic with wisdom gained from over 40 years of marriage.
The Pandemic Reshuffled Many Relationship Roles
While some dynamics stayed constant, the pandemic did force many couples into new roles. With remote work becoming common, husbands suddenly found themselves more involved with household chores and childcare.
Steven and Kori emphasize embracing change openly and positively. Look for opportunities to learn your spouse's usual tasks and compliment them when you take over new responsibilities.
Play to Each Partner's Strengths and Gifts
Rather than just dividing chores evenly, Steven and Kori suggest assigning duties based on each person's innate strengths. This allows both spouses to shine and avoid struggling in areas they aren't skilled at.
Getting to flex your gifts in marriage brings satisfaction. And seeing your partner's talents on display fosters new admiration in the relationship.
Effective Communication Prevents Conflict
Blurry boundaries around who does what often brew resentment. Steven and Kori advise clearly communicating expectations around roles right from the start. Checking in regularly as needs shift, prevents confusion.
It's also key to express appreciation for each other's contributions, whether financial, domestic or emotional labor. No one should feel their efforts go unseen.
Support Your Spouse in Their Preferred Function
While embracing change, also realize your partner may be happiest sticking with their customary role. If your wife thrives as a homemaker, encourage that rather than pushing her to get a job. Or if your husband loves being the breadwinner, don't undermine his sense of purpose.
As Steven and Kori emphasize, "edify, edify, edify!" Supporting each other to play complementary roles often yields the most joy and harmony at home.
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